Friend and lover dating
As we live in a time when many relationships seem doomed to end in a dosi-do of partner swapping, few of us hold out much hope of ever celebrating a golden wedding anniversary.That's why trust is key to the transition from friends to lovers.'And there are certain people, friends or otherwise, who you could never imagine as a sexual partner. We unconsciously sum up this blueprint in another person, and if there is a "fit" we make an emotional connection.Because long-standing friends have had plenty of time to develop this bond, they already know they have plenty in common.Their judgement tends to be more reliable.' Sophie and Simon have now been married seven years and have just had their first child, Maggie Mae. 'I truly believe that because we were friends first our relationship has always functioned on a much deeper level, which is actually quite rare among couples.It's difficult for me to define why it switched focus that day of the wedding, but, looking back, I think Simon was starting to get under my skin.
If they feel they are in it together and can trust each other to be supportive, that is extremely appealing.If I'm honest it felt so familiar, and it wasn't a fire-in-the-stomach thing, but it made me very happy.All day I couldn't stop thinking what an amazing person this quiet man had become.' For Simon the development in their relationship was a complete shock.Subconsciously you're deciding whether you can take it further, from a friendship on to a more emotional and sexual level.' Of course, the overlap in what we want from both friends and partners is significant.
In a poll conducted for the women's website 83 per cent of female participants believed that a purely platonic friendship could exist between men and women.
But, when probed further, one third said they secretly lusted after their male friends.